Off the top of my Redhead
Ok, I'm done complaining and hope that everyone just thinks a little on what I've written.
The Hotheaded Redhead
The Hermetics always charged 500-1k gold for each item they true formed. So, charging for that has always happened, and many did pay. Others have always charged for healing(druids alot) since their herbs cost them money. Its not a new thing, and I am sure there are some that never have, and never will, charge for such services. However, I think that alot of it, lately, comes from the fact that people only look for those that can true form or heal(not always, but have seen it) when they are hurt or their eq is hurt. And then turn and walk away, thus leaving the mage/druid/surgeon sitting there like they are only there to sit and wait for someone to come get healed.
So, it goes both ways, really. But I think ALL people need to be more polite and curtious.
Today, for the sake of simplicity, there are two groups of players. The oldbies, who either stick around solely due to their OOC relationship with others or pk, and the newbies who basically can't offer much more help to others. The oldbies will only be helpful if they are in a good mood, and not otherwise preoccupied. Good mood is rare to find these days, most of us having at least one ooc grudge which often erupts over channels and sours our mood. Also, a lot of the oldbies are just here to be here, not to be doing things. We've tired of a lot of the game already, and just about everything has become a chore.
Also, the new generation of players oftentimes lack what oldbies think of as common sense. In my days, i've consulted the helpfiles rather tirelessly before asking a question over chat, and rarely did i actually spam the question many times over within a couple seconds. Nor did i simply impose myself upon others, following without asking, or what not. Every interaction requires that there's something you can do in return, even if it's just simply making the other person feel good about doing it. Not many people seem to realize this, and obviously, it doesn't help them to be ignorant of this fact.
In addition to all this is the fact that grouping is not seen as desirable. It wasn't hard (for some odd reason) to find people willing to stay for hours after grouping, but nowadays it isn't uncommon to find people needing to leave within minutes of grouping. The effort of sustaining a group or planning a group run not being worthwhile, people rely more and more on solitary runs, which leaves very little room for healers or trueformers with a chance of decent compensation.
I usually offer to pay for tform, many tformers do not accept payment, but I offer anyway, as true-form uses a lot of mana, which is important to a mages fighting ability. I notice that surgeons tend to be invited to grou (argh) group more often than mages, too. It seems that many players treat mages as a convenient source of eq fixing, but not much more. I certainly do not have a problem with paying mages.